There's an HBO series called Looking that revolves around the lives of a few gay men in modern day San Francisco...think Sex and the City minus the glitz and glamour...and actual women...but same/same.
Nevertheless - it's a rabbit hole that I've gone down and while it may have started as a rocky fall - it has become quite enjoyable and...human. In an episode I just watched, a character named Doris is being a friend to another character named Dom in developing one of his dreams and goals into a reality...during the process, there comes a situation where Dom goes bat shit on those assisting him and Doris gives him the business and states simply, "Some people just want to help."
I really thought nothing of this line at first...then it hit me - how true this statement is. Over the past 6 months, my life has been full of those who just want to help - no ulterior motive, no obligation, just pure want and desire to help.
We tend to attract those who have the same inherent traits that we possess. I'm so blessed to be able to get paid to help others. It's not a job to me - but it's something that I actually enjoy doing and am so drawn to...like from my soul...it feeds me in ways I cannot describe. Dealing with life the last half a year - I've not only seen this trait in my closest friends, but I've come to know and become close with others who value the same trait.
I began to think (honestly just this evening...in the past hour) what are some ways that people can do to nurture this trait in themselves. So comes the below in no particular order...
Share your resources. Share your knowledge. Share your office. Share YOU. Just share. Think about everyone and everything you know and resources you've invested in and be mindful of how you could help someone else by sharing.
Keep an eye out for opportunity. Maybe a friend has an idea that you could expand on. Perhaps you know others who could benefit from a potential lead that you cannot use.
If a friend or colleague has a product or service - let people know about it. Be a billboard for something you believe in.
There's a difference between telling someone they have a terrible idea and giving them examples of how they can improve. Some won't take it well - others will - but in the long run, you end up helping those who actually want to work and improve their chances at success.
Time is your most valuable asset - and people get that. When you take your time and help someone out - they remember it. Even if it is something as easy as making an introduction...people take note.
There are so many ways to recognize someone. Nominate them. Award them. It's an easy way to make someone feel good and to feel that they've done some solid work.
Helping others isn't the easiest thing to do. It can sometimes disrupt your schedule, cost you money or time - and sometimes it can even be taken the wrong way. However, keeping these ideas in mind will show your connections that - hey - sometimes you just want to help.